“There is no more lovely, friendly and charming relationship, communion or company than a good marriage”.. so said Martin Luther King once.
Today marks the completion of 2 years that Sharif and I are joined in holy marriage. And I thought I ‘ll share some li’l things which could make a great relationship of matrimony work… Don’t judge, Read this only if you are interested to get some cool tips.. Judges, please KEEP OUT !!!
1. Being the first point, this ought to be something really important. OK. Take this.. this is something I never get bored of telling .. Appreciate the day.. You never know what is in store for you tomorrow. So, appreciate what you have today and be thankful to your Creator for all the positive things in your Married life today.. wait, let’s talk about the negative things later.. :-) and YES, even count a smile from your partner to that positive lot.
2. At least some of you might think that love and care are the most important ingredients of a happy Married Life recipe. But I would correct it as Mutual respect and Trust. Yes. You have to show your partner that you respect him/her. If you develop that attitude, you will have countless opportunities to display that which will strengthen your bond. And Trust your partner. Trust is an advanced level of Love. I would say, these two are the backbone of a strong relationship.
3. FIGHTS are an integral part of married life.. Any married life would be, I would say, imperfect without fights. Just imagine, singing “Raja ko Rani se pyar ho gaya” everyday ! It is so not practical.. So, when it comes to fights, settle the fight by EOM (I made this acronym up just now ! let’s say, End of Married Day.. ha haa.. typical s/w pro isn’t it? ). The day(s) that you carry over a fight is inversely proportional to the chances of forgiving the root cause of the fight. So, talk, shout, yell.. do whatever it takes to settle the fight the same day.. and Move on.. Don’t allow to grow it in your mind even without you realizing it and later burst out as Cancer.
4. I read somewhere when I was a kid, “How you leave your bathroom to your partner can tell you how much they respect each other”. I back it 100%. So, make sure you leave the bathroom presentable to your partner and show that he/she matters to you.
5. This is exclusive for ladies. “The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach”… even though it is a cliché, I would replace ‘The’ with ‘One’ and shh.. trust me, it works ! So, get some cooking tips once in a while :-).. You can do this one alone behind his back !!
6. ‘Blame’ tone is a killer. No human being in this world is perfect ! at least Gandhi and Mother Teresa weren’t. So always expect imperfections from your partner. And when it comes to these imperfections, tell your partner in a suggestive tone. Never ever use the ‘ Blame’ tone. No normal person will like to get blamed.
7. When it comes to doing household chores, you can enjoy them if you do them together. Remember, when you signed up for Marriage, you did say ‘I will Share my life with my partner’. So share everything !
8. Finance is like the nervous system of Married Life. Talk your financial plans out loud with your partner. Have a healthy discussion regarding your financial goals and plans frequently. That is better than having to face an awkward moment “Where did the 20K go ?.. I never saw that coming.. ”
9. This one, I got from one of my close friend even before our marriage (Thanks dear for this wonderful tip). Get rid of “I” s and “YOU”s from your vocab.. You would be so much used to that in the premarital life. Welcome to the “WE”s. I mean it. Try practicing if you think it is silly !
10. Never think of “changing” your partner. He or she came from a different womb, with different set of DNA and different living conditions.. So get ready to be surprised of accepting a different set of human persona. Don’t make yourself a fool by trying to change that.
If you want to experiment if any of the above tips work, just do the opposite and see the results !! Guys, I have to go now. Time to pick up the next fight with Sharif ! he hee… J/k .. Wish you all a Cool Married life ahead… God bless..
Today marks the completion of 2 years that Sharif and I are joined in holy marriage. And I thought I ‘ll share some li’l things which could make a great relationship of matrimony work… Don’t judge, Read this only if you are interested to get some cool tips.. Judges, please KEEP OUT !!!
1. Being the first point, this ought to be something really important. OK. Take this.. this is something I never get bored of telling .. Appreciate the day.. You never know what is in store for you tomorrow. So, appreciate what you have today and be thankful to your Creator for all the positive things in your Married life today.. wait, let’s talk about the negative things later.. :-) and YES, even count a smile from your partner to that positive lot.
2. At least some of you might think that love and care are the most important ingredients of a happy Married Life recipe. But I would correct it as Mutual respect and Trust. Yes. You have to show your partner that you respect him/her. If you develop that attitude, you will have countless opportunities to display that which will strengthen your bond. And Trust your partner. Trust is an advanced level of Love. I would say, these two are the backbone of a strong relationship.
3. FIGHTS are an integral part of married life.. Any married life would be, I would say, imperfect without fights. Just imagine, singing “Raja ko Rani se pyar ho gaya” everyday ! It is so not practical.. So, when it comes to fights, settle the fight by EOM (I made this acronym up just now ! let’s say, End of Married Day.. ha haa.. typical s/w pro isn’t it? ). The day(s) that you carry over a fight is inversely proportional to the chances of forgiving the root cause of the fight. So, talk, shout, yell.. do whatever it takes to settle the fight the same day.. and Move on.. Don’t allow to grow it in your mind even without you realizing it and later burst out as Cancer.
4. I read somewhere when I was a kid, “How you leave your bathroom to your partner can tell you how much they respect each other”. I back it 100%. So, make sure you leave the bathroom presentable to your partner and show that he/she matters to you.
5. This is exclusive for ladies. “The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach”… even though it is a cliché, I would replace ‘The’ with ‘One’ and shh.. trust me, it works ! So, get some cooking tips once in a while :-).. You can do this one alone behind his back !!
6. ‘Blame’ tone is a killer. No human being in this world is perfect ! at least Gandhi and Mother Teresa weren’t. So always expect imperfections from your partner. And when it comes to these imperfections, tell your partner in a suggestive tone. Never ever use the ‘ Blame’ tone. No normal person will like to get blamed.
7. When it comes to doing household chores, you can enjoy them if you do them together. Remember, when you signed up for Marriage, you did say ‘I will Share my life with my partner’. So share everything !
8. Finance is like the nervous system of Married Life. Talk your financial plans out loud with your partner. Have a healthy discussion regarding your financial goals and plans frequently. That is better than having to face an awkward moment “Where did the 20K go ?.. I never saw that coming.. ”
9. This one, I got from one of my close friend even before our marriage (Thanks dear for this wonderful tip). Get rid of “I” s and “YOU”s from your vocab.. You would be so much used to that in the premarital life. Welcome to the “WE”s. I mean it. Try practicing if you think it is silly !
10. Never think of “changing” your partner. He or she came from a different womb, with different set of DNA and different living conditions.. So get ready to be surprised of accepting a different set of human persona. Don’t make yourself a fool by trying to change that.
If you want to experiment if any of the above tips work, just do the opposite and see the results !! Guys, I have to go now. Time to pick up the next fight with Sharif ! he hee… J/k .. Wish you all a Cool Married life ahead… God bless..
Good one Fasti, Can c that u hve learned a lots of lessons in two years:) Point number 9 is my favourite :) Wil try applying all this in sometime near future
ReplyDeleteI simply say a WOW!!!! for all you great tips dude.....I comply that the above stuff works :)
ReplyDeleteCongratulations my dearest. I hope I get to meet this Great Man of yours who has consumed your life :P May your love continue growing. IA. xxx
ReplyDeleteRony, Yes I learned all these lessons from experience.. :-) Hema, thanks a lot ! thanks for the support.. Sofia, thank you so much dear for that sincere and warm wish of yours
ReplyDeleteHi Fasila,
ReplyDeleteGreat Blog. Agree to all the points above and one more humble addition here:
When you are ready to handhold each other through a tough phase in life, this just results in the strongest bonding ever :)
Sreeja :)
Hi Pachiii.... I appreciate your ability to learn things quick. But I never thought, Sherif will teach you this many lessons in just 2 years time :) .. Anyway, heartfelt congratulations to both of you on your wedding anniversary.
ReplyDeleteI second your thoughts Fas...And collars up for Sharif to have taught you so much in just 2 years :D
ReplyDeleteCONGRATULATIONS!!!
Errr..!! Anil & I are gonna hit the 1 year target soon!!!
Thanks Sreeja for the compliment. And yes you should be right. If you pass that 'agni pareeksha', then you become more matured as a couple. Thanks for that.. Thankooo Sajeeve, athe athe, njan oru quick learner thanne !! ... he heee.. pinne remember you and CK gave me advises before the marriage? Gurooo, thanks !! Kavitha, Thanks a lot !! And I will convey the compliment to Sharif.. :-)
ReplyDeletewow...good lessons for me :)))
ReplyDeleteWell said Fas! Two years of married life has certainly made you very wise..:))
ReplyDeleteGreat tips Fasila!
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